PART I - CHINUCH

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1. INTRODUCTION - The Issues we face today
    

2. CHINUCH GOALS / PARENTING GOALS
   a. Training and Empowering our Talmidim/os / Children to Make Decisions:
        i. You Are The Moral Decisions That You Make.
        ii. What constitutes real choices
        iii. The importance of conquering your personal struggles.
        iv. The importance of making a decision and moving on. The importance of wrong decisions.
   
   b. Each Talmid/a / Child Should Have A Vision and Sense of Mission
   
   c. Torah and Mitzvos Are Sweet and Exciting
   
   d. Hatoras Hasefaikos
        i. “ayn simcha khator hasefakos” and “ayn haShechina shorah ela mitoch simcha”
        ii. Rav Wolbe zatzal: “there is no such thing as an apikorsus question, only apikorsus answers.”
        iii. Creating an atmosphere that encourages open and honest discussion
             - thus showing our students/children we are confident in Torah.

   3. Midos and Character of a Mechanech / Parent
       a. Growth Mindset (you can improve, and your student/child can improve)

       b. Smile and Be Happy - It Is Contagious
     

       c. Be Real
           i. Apologize to your students/children
           ii. Admit mistakes
           iii. We all have struggles - even us Mechanchim/Parents

           iiii. Show that you understand their world and their struggles

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       d. Care About Them

       e. Believe in Them

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       f. Be Trustworthy and Honest With Your Students/Children

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       g. Self-Confidence

           i. Do not use your talmidim/children

           ii. Do not take their “attitude” and chutzpah personally

           iii. Be Transparent

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       h. Vilna Gaon on “lo sirtzach”

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   4. Philosophy of Chinuch:
       Discipline and Structure v.s. Creativity and Individual Growth

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       a. Discipline Versus Chinuch
           i. Discipline = Disciple
           ii. Call ID Motivation
           iii. Creating a Secure and Validating Environment
           iv. Talmidim/os / Children who ask for help are the school and home heroes

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       b. The Positive Power of Making Mistakes

            i. Making mistakes is part of the natural healthy process of growth
            ii. If a student’s/child’s fear of failure is greater than their belief that they can succeed and grow
                - they will never even try in the first place.

       c. Tochacha That Elevates

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       d. Individualized Discipline